bean has told me a week after i'm burried, she's getting some early 20's stud to knock the dust off her muffin.
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Posts: 19588 (05/12/08 16:03:57) dick-tater |
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Posts: 1142 (05/12/08 16:26:37) Runs like
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That's sweet.
"So none of you guys would have a problem if your spouses died and 3 days later they were boinking someone else? " If they are dead, how are they boinking someone else three days later? |
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Posts: 2736 (05/12/08 16:48:19) Ask me how to
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 @ mamu!
I suppose that if I'm dead and my SO is boinking someone else 3 days later, then it shouldn't matter to me, as I'm DEAD. But if it were one of my family members or a friend, I would just assume that they had them "on the side". and since it's not me, it really wouldn't be any of my business, even though I may be shocked. |
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deesgirl |
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Posts: 191 (05/12/08 18:11:01) slut puppy |
I would start me a haunting!
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ShrdrBoy |
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Posts: 1315 (05/12/08 18:35:48) I call him "Little George" |
so you'd be a humpinghaunter?
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Joncon |
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Posts: 1349 (05/12/08 18:47:28) I sport moose knuckle |
My point is that you don't really know the whole story. We rarely know the whole story. |
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deesgirl |
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Posts: 193 (05/12/08 18:51:42) slut puppy |
ShrdrBoy wrote: No, I'd be kicking his ass (in a ghostly way) for screwing someone three days after my funeral! Then I might go ghosthump a friend of his, just to get even...lol |
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Posts: 190 (05/12/08 19:04:28) I'm not crazy.
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Empiem wrote:
I do agree very much with it being an issue of 'class' and 'respect' for others who are still mourning the person who died. While Grandpa may have not loved his wife for a good portion of that 50 years, he still had offspring with her who are mourning their mother's death. To show up with a date 3 days later and being all "Haha, your mama wasn't all that!" ( ) in their faces is extremely disrespectful to them, as
their father, IMO.
I know that people mourn in different ways and I know that we tend to be in 'life-is-short' mode after a death, but that doesn't give you leeway to be classless and tacky about the situation. I think Grandpa could have certainly kept the relationship with the new woman on the downlow for a *decent* amouint of time (i.e. a year), then introduced her to the offspring. And if I were the kids, I wouldn't have want to know that he was with her before or very shortly after my mother/his wife died. Regardless if your marriage sucked, no need for your offspring to know that. Sometimes, being lied to is the better option than being told the truth. |
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Posts: 354 (05/12/08 19:53:24) Just ask a blue shirt
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Being lied to is never a better option than being told the truth, IMHO.
Lying shows lack of class and disrespect, IMHO. |
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Courtney Love1 |
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Posts: 191 (05/12/08 19:59:05) I'm not crazy.
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Courting Disaster wrote:
I sooooo completely disagree with that, my internet friend.
What would be GAINED from the grandpa telling the kids the truth ("Well, kids, I haven't loved your mother for the past 30 years, in fact, I've hated her and I've been having an affair behind your mother's back for the past 3 years with this chick I"m giong to introduce you to 3 days after your mother's funeral.") in this particular instance? Seriously, I want to know how the kids knowing the truth (if what I wrote actually is the truth) about their father's feelings for their mother would benefit them in any way? |
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Posts: 1911 (05/12/08 20:12:00) won't you be my neighbor? |
At the very least, they are spared the humiliation of feeling deceived and possibly used when they inevitably find out or have a reasonable high probability
estimate of the truth. They also would not lose their trust in the grandpa since he would not have deceived them. Perhaps the idea of telling the truth would
ideally extend back to telling the wife about the situation with their relationship and deciding to end it in an honest manner if that is what they wanted to
do.
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Posts: 667 (05/12/08 20:57:07) creepy guy |
The thing is I don't think the marriage was ever on the rocks. My grandma was just a wonderful sweet lady. I never heard anyone if my life speak an ill
word about her. I like how some of you speak that it is not any of my business. He is not the only one grieving about his wife's death. My aunt took it
very hard and she is the one most upset with my Grandfather. With him quickly redating and marrying it is not grieving at all imo. The thing is it just seems
he is marrying out of convenience. He just needs someone to cook and clean for him. When my grandma went in a retirement home he didn't even know how to do
his laundry for himself. He took a shower with his underwear on to clean them.
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Posts: 3357 (05/12/08 21:43:12) leg curls give me chubbies |
If it was a family member of mine I'd be glad they were happy so late in life. When you're in your 30s and 40s you think you have forever so you can
wait for whatever reason you choose to use but once you're older you realize that you don't really have forever. You could end up with a life ending
condition at any time. Fuck that waiting to make OTHER people comfortable. They can kiss my ass.
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Posts: 355 (05/12/08 23:38:28) Just ask a blue shirt
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What would be GAINED from the grandpa telling the kids the truth ... Honor. And converesly, what would he lose by lying to them? His honor and more of their respect for him when they finally found out he lied to them. That may not be important to you, his relatives or anyone else, but I guarantee it's important to him. Like Steely (and I) said, why waste the little time he has left? Allow him the respect to make his own choices and love him as the honorable man (with needs!) that he is. Now if he's been banging her for the last five years and is just now coming out with it, all bets are off! Ha! |
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Posts: 196 (05/13/08 08:36:26) slut puppy |
Have you talked to your grandpa, Mizz?
Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. |
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Posts: 890 (05/13/08 10:55:37) |
I have a minimum one week waiting period
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Posts: 11 (05/13/08 18:23:12) |
Ya knows.........ole' Tater habs seen this ALOT, especially wifffff older Men. You know, like men in dere 70's and 80's...........All Ima sayin is
dat i seen it a lot.
I telled ole Mr. Tater iffin he got married too soon after I cacked? I wassa gonna come back and possess dat woman's body and show her how's it's really done! |
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Posts: 5146 (05/13/08 19:09:39) scrap |
Mizz, I think you have your answer in your last post - you grandfather simply cannot function on his own and needs a woman to care for him. I seriously doubt
he intends any dishonor to his late wife with this. She may have even worried about him and had private talks with him about his need to find another wife to
take care of him when she was gone.
If you can help your aunt see this side of things, maybe she'll forgive him a bit. But you still have to find out the details from your grandfather to be sure that he really is just finding a new help-mate rather than a new "love". |
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Posts: 2594 (05/13/08 21:16:48) her name is "Muffy" |
My gramma was like this, rest her soul. She never went long between relationships. At first I think it was survival mode and then it became second nature. My
mom's dad died when he was 28...leaving my gramma to raise 5 children who ranged from ages 10 to 6 months. Gramma got kinda cheated out of any money from
the business that my grandpa had built I guess. Anyhoo....by the time the youngest was 2*ish* she was married again and had another child. They were only
married a few years and she divorced him due to his abusiveness and he took off....so now she had 6 kids to take care of ranging from about 12-13*ish* to
toddler age. This was the 1960's. About a year later she met my grampa *dude I knew as my grampa my whole life*. They were together for about 20 years,
give or take a bit. He died, suddenly, at the age of 54, in december. Not more than about 6-9 months later she met her 4th husband whom she was with for
another 20 years give or take. He passed away in Jan. of this year and gramma, bless her heart, got on e-harmony about 3 weeks later. Now, mind you, by this
time my gramma was 72 years old and suffering from terminal cancer and only had a couple months left to live....but that was her. She could not be alone. She
needed male companionship. I know that my gramma loved her next husbands in her own way but she was very pragmatic, at least in the early years, and knew that
she needed a man around to help her raise the kids but I honestly think the love of her life was her first husband and she did what scorp talked about...found
a help mate, not necessarily a new love.
I don't think I could do it, though. |
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Posts: 3359 (05/14/08 14:21:04) leg curls give me chubbies |
If she was in a nursing home for any length of time before she died he most likely did a lot of mourning at that time. He really lost her when she went there
and dying was just the last step. I think the movie, Away From Her shows a bit about what that would be like.
Life is fleeting and happiness and love isn't always easy to come by...especially when you get old and all of your friends are dying off and your spouse is in a care facility. I can't fault the guy even if he did find a new love in what seems like a short time. |
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